Congrats — you’re getting married to the partner of your dreams. You got the yes, and now it’s time to help plan the big day. Yes, we said plan: The groom has input, too!
Gents! One of your best friends is getting married and you’ve been asked to be part of the wedding party. Awesome, right? Bachelor party shennanies and toasts await. But, that’s not all. You have responsibilities, too.
The Gables at Chadds Ford’s events team has done its fair share of weddings of all types. Whether it’s a traditional couple, same-sex marriage or gender inclusive wedding, we still find that duties and responsibilities tend to be split among the parties.
Worried? Confused? We’ve got you! Here’s our advice for those in the groom and groomsmen roles.
- Remember to give your two-cents worth throughout the process — it’s your wedding, too! We see a lot of brides asking their grooms, “What do you think?” and then getting silence in return. This includes the registry, too. You’ll be living with many of those gifts for a lifetime, so you should love them, too.
- This is good advice for everyone: Pick your battles. If it’s not that important to you, let it go.
- Once a color scheme and/or theme is set, make sure you handle the groomsmen’s attire. In many cases, your other half is likely doing most of the rest of the selecting.
- This is a tender subject: Step up and manage your family and friends and any potential drama. You know who may cause issues, who might party too much, or who may get “in the way” of planning. Be the hero and address these issues in advance, if possible, and, if needed, handle it the day of the wedding.
- It’s hard to imagine forgetting this, but do remember to eat — even if that means in advance. Your wedding day has a schedule and you don’t want to be ravenous when it’s time for pictures!
- Stay on top of, handle and promptly pay for all appropriate duties: attire, gifts, the bachelor party, etc.
- Include the dads (and granddads and stepdads) in the bachelor party planning as well as other “buddies’” parts of the event, like photos, special toasts, dances, etc.
- Check in with the groom now and again to see if you can lend a hand since last-minute and/or unexpected things tend to pop up.
- News flash: It’s not your day, so don’t have too many opinions. Wait to be asked.
- If the groom is frustrated with the bride or family, lend a sympathetic ear but don’t join in on the bashing. Be the level-headed one!
- Don’t be “that guy.” You’re part of the event, so don’t overdo it at the bar, and most certainly don’t pre-game. Everyone has a smartphone and you don’t want to show up on social media doing something you wouldn’t want to share.
The Gables at Chadds Ford is nestled in the heart of the historic Brandywine Valley. Our combination of fresh seasonal cuisine, rustic yet elegant charm, and enchanting outdoor dining will keep you coming back, time and time again. The Gables is also the perfect venue to host your next special event, whether you are planning a wedding, rehearsal dinner, baby shower or corporate event.
Feature photo: Fantail Photography